Living the Four Agreements

In The Four Agreements don Miguel Ruiz offers four deceptively simple principles to live by. Keeping these four agreements can be one of the hardest things you will ever do and one of the most life changing. The Four Agreements are: 1. Be Impeccable With Your Word Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak […]

Sitting with Despair

There is strength and meaning to be gained in sitting with suffering. All too often, we lose the ability to turn compassionately toward ourselves in difficult moments. When we are able to do so in the presence of a compassionate other, as in therapy, we remember how to love ourselves. By unflinchingly holding company and deeply empathizing with our […]


The great tapestry of our lives can be seen in the rhythm of the changing seasons. If we pause and step back, extraordinary patterns of flow and movement emerge. Even now, as we settle into winter, new life is forming from the fallen decay. Consider what has led you to this moment. Sitting and reading this blog is […]

An Open Heart

According to Buddhist psychology, by pushing away the painful aspects of experience we isolate ourselves from the capacity to love. We justifiably complain of feeling unreal because we are busy keeping ourselves at arm’s length by listening to the inner dialogue urging us toward our favorite distraction (sex, food, computer games, etc.). Opening to emotion deepens the […]

Meditate in the A.M.

Because it counters the stress cycle, “meditation is the most transformative thing you can do for your health,” says Woodson Merrell, M.D., chairman of the Department of Integrative Medicine at Beth Israel Medical Center in New York. And there’s no need to overcomplicate things, either: “Just pick a single point of focus – like your […]