Cold season is here and one of the best ways to ward off the bug is to eat loads of heart-healthy garlic, affectionately called “the stinking rose”.  Whole books have been written about garlic in light of  it’s numerous therapeutic benefits. Garlic is an excellent source of manganese, vitamin B6, vitamin C, and a good source of selenium.  One reason for garlic’s beneficial effects may be its ability to lesson the amount of free radicals present in the bloodstream.

Feel-Better-Soon Soup   1 pound cranberry beans*
   8 cups water
   15 medium cloves of garlic, peeled and trimmed
   2 large shallots
   2-3 dried smoked chiles (like serrano or chipolte)
   2 teaspoons fine sea salt
   a drizzle of olive oil
   a small handful fo cilantro, chopped
   a couple of handfuls of a grated, hard salty cheese

  Soak the beans overnight. Before soaking, give them a good rinse.  Look carefully for any pepples or dirt clumps. Cover with a few extra inches of water. When you are ready to use the beans, drain them and rinse again.  Set aside.

  Preheat the oven to 350 degrees. Place the rack near the bottom of the oven.

  Put the beans, water, garlic, shallots, and chiles in an oven-proof pot or casserole dish -preferably one with an oven-proof lid. Place the pot on a rimmed baking sheet and place in the oven for two hours, or until beans are nice and tender.

  After the first hour check every twenty minutes are so. When the beans are done, pull the pot out of the oven and season generously with salt. Stir and taste. The beans need some time to take in the saltier broth, so once you have the broth seasoned just right let the soup sit there on the top of the stove, covered, for another ten minutes or so.

Taste and adjust for seasoning one more time and drizzle with a bit of olive oil. To serve, first ladle a generous scoop of beans into each bowl.  Follow with the broth to cover. Sprinkle with cilantro and cheese.

Serves 4 to 6

*I like Rancho Gordo’s Barlotti beans because they are fresh crop dried beans. They can be ordered on-line. At the same time, any beans from the cranberry family will do nicely.

Each time you climb to a higher vantage point the range of your vision is enlarged and your understanding of your entire situation is altered. You see things from a more encompassing perspective which allows you to be less concerned and anxious and enables you to relate to your environment in terms of how it really is rather than how you imagined it to be from a more limited point of view.

- Swami Rama and Swami Ajaya, Creative Use of Emotions

“What is Real?” asked the Velveteen Rabbit.  “Real isn’t how you are made,” said the Skin Horse.  “It is a thing that happens to you when a child loves you for a long, long time.  Not just to play with, but really loves you, then you become Real.”

“Does it hurt?” asked the Rabbit.  “Sometimes,” said the Skin Horse, for he is always truthful. “When you are real, you don’t mind being hurt.”

“Does it happen all at once, like being wound up?” he asked. “Or bit by bit.”

“It doesn’t happen all at once,” said the Skin Horse.  “You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen to toys who break easily or have sharp edges or have to be carefully kept. By the time you are real, most of your hair has been loved off, your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and are very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all because once you are real, you can’t be ugly except to people who don’t understand.”

- From The Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams

Pain is full of information about what is wrong and what is needed. Staying with pain can be a powerful tool. By alleviating it too quickly, the chance to study the underlying core beliefs is lost and old patterns go unchanged.

All of us avoid contact with discomfort by creating noise in the form of distractions and diversions. By focusing elsewhere, we’re able to temporarily turn the volume down on painful feelings. There is no shame in this. It’s a self-protective function.

It takes courage and heart to face pain.  During difficult times, these qualities can be a challenge to find.  In such cases, it is not unusual to borrow another’s compassion until we are able to resource it within ourselves. Therapy is good example of this type of “borrowing”, as is reaching out to a friend for comfort.

Seasonal affective disorder (SAD) affects more than 10 million Americans. But you don’t have to be diagnosed with seasonal depression to feel moody in the wintertime.  A subclinical version (SSAD) brings subtler symptoms: a desire to sleep in, a craving for carbs, and a lack of “umph”.

At the heart of both conditions lie some inescapable facts. Like other mammals, humans evolved in response to the natural world, and those age-old connections show up in our biology and behavior. Here’s how: Circadian rhythms, our internal clocks, are based on external cycles – the 24 hours it takes for the earth to rotate on its axis. These rhythms affect our eating and sleeping patterns, as well as our hormone production and body-temperature regulation. In other words, biologically speaking, the sun still rules our world.

In the winter the gap between our daily rhythms and those of nature widens, making even otherwise balanced people feel sluggish, empty and low. Longer nights encourage our brains to produce the “darkness hormone” melatonin at the expense of the ”feel-good hormone” serotonin.  But the primary triggers for the winter blues are the change in the timing of the sunrise and the fact that many of us wake up in the dark.

Thankfully, we can balance out the nature-culture disconnect and reset our rhythms, thereby lifting our moods. SAD and SSAD tend to respond readily to the very thing we’re missing this time of year: light! Learn how to get more of it from the steps below as well as discover the best foods, exercise and herbs to create your action plan for a brighter, happier winter. 

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1. Let There Be Light
For seasonal depression and the winter blahs “the treatment of choice is light,” says psychiatrist Alfred Lewy. For most of us, the easiest option is to purchase a light box outfitted with special bulbs that mimic the brightness of the morning sun. Light therapy works by getting our sleep-wake cycle to synchronize with an electric-powered “sun”, thereby resetting our circadian clock. We tend to feel our best when we wake with the dawn and the light box essentially helps you make your own sunrise.

2. Bring on the Night
You need a good night’s sleep – eight to night hours –  in order to mitigate winter depression. Keep bedtime and waketime consistent.  The best plan is going to bed between 10and 11 p.m. and rising between 6 and 7 a.m.

While light-box therapy remains the primary remedy for synchronizing your sleep patterns, supplementing with melatonin (the “darkness” neurotransmitter) may help, too. The brain’s melatonin levels rise to their highest level at night. People normally start secreting the hormone a few hours before bedtime, to prime the body for sleep. Taking melatonin supplements in the afternoon can help shift the circadian clock. Since melatonin can make some people sleepy, avoid driving as you figure out the best dosage. As always, consult with your physician first.

3.  Eat to Feel Good
What we eat can affect our brain chemistry and our mood. To combat SAD focus on foods that increase and stabilize levels of serotonin, a mood-improving hormone that tends to decrease in the winter. We often crave high-carbohydrate comforts in winter, but it’s wise to resist the urge. Instead, eat a variety of complex carbohydrates such as brown rice, oats, and other whole grains. Other serotonin-enhancing foods include:

  • BEANS AND LEGUMES: split peas, black beans, kidney beans, lentils, and chickpeas
  • SEEDS: pumpkin, sunflower, sesame, and flax
  • NUTS: almonds, walnuts, pecans, pistachios, and cashews
  • ROOT VEGETABLES: carrots, beets, sweet potatoes, and winter squash

4. Move and Stretch
Exercise helps (all types of depression) for many reasons. It boosts serotonin levels in the brain; it improves circulation (which gets more blood and nutrients to the brain); it increases energy and metabolism (even at the celleular level); and it improves glucose regulation (which also effects energy levels). For those taking anti-depressant medication, exercise helps to improve the effectiveness of the drug – more of the medicine gets to the brain where it is needed and the body metabolizes the drug more easily, which reduces side effects.

Mild aerobic exercise for 30 mintues can usually lighten your mood.  It it’s not too cold, walking outdoors is a great option. Taking a yoga class in one of the Vinyasa styles to get both an aerobic lift and relaxation is another excellent form of exercise. The nature of yoga also helps reduce stress hormones, which indirectly improves serotonin production. The inversion poses, such as headstands and handstands, prove particularly helpful in turning around winter depression.  If you don’t have experience with these poses, please get instruction from a qualified teacher before attempting them on your own.

5. Supplement Smartly
Several dietary supplements can help fill in any nutritional gaps and in turn may lift your mood.

  • VITAMIN D: Deficiency in this vitamin is extremely common and may contribute to both ordinary and seasonal depression.
  • MULTIVITAMIN: A good one includes plenty of B vitamins, as well as key minerals such as selenium and magnesium.
  • B-VITAMIN COMPLEX: These assist the brain in producing neurotransmitters such as serotonin and norepinephrine.
  • OMEGA-3 RICH FISH OIL: Studies suggest that omega-3 fatty acids may help prevent and ease depression and other mood disorders.  Flax makes a good substitute for vegetarians.

6. Take It Outside
Spending time outdoors helps us to reconnect with nature, thus healing a rift that seems to lie at heart of seasonal depression. If you combine serotonin-boosting exercise with your outdoor time your combatting the winter blues on two fronts.

During the summer, take advantage of the sunlight by spending 15 to 20 minutes a day in the sun without sunscreen (unless you are at risk of skin cancer). This will help build your vitamin D levels for next year.

7. Try Healing Herbs
Certain medicinal plants ease the winter blues.  Try drinking an uplifting tea like tulsi, sometimes referred to as holy basil. Aromatherapy is another alternative.  Since the smell of any citrus uplifts the spirit, add a total of 10 drips of any combination of lemon, lime, and orange essential oils to each ounce of lotion or massage oil.  Use daily, or use these oils in a diffuser.

8. Don’t Go It Alone
As with any form of depression, working with a mental-health professional for SAD can be beneficial. If you experience suicidal thoughts or other serious symptoms, seek help immediately.

Sometimes A Banana Is Just A Banana by Rita Maynard

One day in the kitchen my husband remarked, looking at the bruised bananas I just brought home, “Slim pickin’s, eh?” Right he was. There was a very sorry selection of bananas at the store and after scouring the shelves these were the best I could come up with. Then he said, “You know if I brought those bananas home you would have reacted differently.”

I gave this a bit of thought and, oh my, he was right.

In our relationship, I am the one who is more organized, disciplined, detailed, and tidy. When he said, “Slim pickin’s, eh?” it felt like validation. He knows me and how hard I try to do a good job for our family.

However, if he brought home the same blackened produce the message that would hang in the air was how incompetent a fruit picker he really was. Easily, I could jump to believing he just grabbed the first bananas he saw and rushed out of the store. Then it would have been a short hop to have gone down the slippery slope of attacking all the other ways he does not pay attention or attend to other things I think are important. The counters are not cleaned well enough, the newspapers are left on the table. Then there are those unfinished projects around the house, and, and, and.

If it was a particularly stressful day for me, my mind may have gone into some character assassination, thinking he was the kind of person who never picks up or always misses what is really important to me. A perfect storm of a stressful day and a recent cascade of feeling disappointed could lead me to experience my own vulnerability and fears about the relationship and regress to feeling I will never have the relationship I always wanted.

Yikes! I realized how quickly I can fuel a fire that was not even burning.

Now, I am a trained professional. I know how damaging both to me and the relationship this slippery slope can be. Once started, it reinforces a pattern of negative thinking in my brain and conjures up all that could be frightening and hurtful in my relationship.

It leads me down the path of distancing myself from my partner as I would see him in this negative light. Maybe this type of thinking was adaptive as some point in our human history as a defense. But now I was not even under attack and there was nothing constructive to this thought process – especially if I strive to be a good partner.

So, my goal for myself is to try to recognize this type of thinking at its inception and cut it off as soon as possible. I want to work on being more generous of spirit and to view my husband in the best light possible while putting a check on my quick process of negative attributions.

I hope the next time I see bruised bananas in the kitchen I can think my husband did his best at the store, remembering all the ways he does things for us, smile lovingly and say, “Slim pickin’s, eh?”.

So long ago, you arrived blazing in light
with templates of your brilliance in hand.
Your sweet soul bathed in others’ expectations and preconceptions.
Your story unfolds as you catapult through life amid dangers, obstructions,
opportunities, choices, connections, and fate, even destiny.

Falling apart, coming together
Breaking in two, healing and piecing together all the disparate fragments
of a self, that is driven to remember her innate truth, his fundamental
essence. Oh where is that template now?
Where is the path that leads to your radiance? Is it in the chest inside your
secret heart, buried in the jewel there? Under your many broken hearts?

Land in your light body, your joy body.
Bring all your selves to the earth alter.
Allow your magicians skill to direct your deepest listening, your bone knowing.
Your fierce warrior dances on the grave clothes you have thrown off.
Remember dear co-heart, the face you wore before you were born.
Did you not agree to all of this?

Ah the forgetting…the remembering,
the gathering of your holy broken chards.
Bring them with exquisite lovingness.
Bring them to the Sovereign within, the fair and compassionate witness
who rejoices in your ability to awake and reclaim your gifts.
Let yourself recall, that you have always been in conspiracy with the
author of this passion play.

Your heart overflows with brain cells, so choose now!
Your lover will always lead you home.

-Concetta Antonelli

The best part about going home is seeing old friends. They are the ultimate container of love and acceptance.

Recently I stayed with a dear one.  Within minutes, we were camped in front of the fire gobbling down chocolate chip cookies. It wasn’t long before we started eye-balling the freshly made batch destined to her neighbor. My friend slyly noted that ”it is two days past Christmas.” To which I replied, “And you can always make more cookies!” Our laughter thankfully distracted us enough to leave the tin alone.  What also remained was a new mantra for whenever something didn’t unfold as planned.

In an attempt to create structure in our lives, we often place limits on our selves and hold unrealistic expectations of others. It may be a subtle voice that says “it’s too late” or a belief that someone will never change. The good news is that it is rarely too late. Whether it be a mood, thought or flower - everything changes eventually.