Year: 2012

An Open Letter

Dear One, I had no idea that there was a difference between shame and guilt. I think I shamed you your entire life. I meant to use guilt, to help you reflect on your behavior. I never thought you weren’t good enough. I didn’t like […]

Our Appointment

More wisdom from James Hollis: “Finding a mature spirituality will only occur when we internalize the fact that our egos are only a small part of a larger mystery…. We are called to ask serious, more courageous questions of ourselves, for without these probing questions, […]

Accepting Our Invitation

James Hollis is a great inspiration. His paves the way for us to examine our lives with clarity and compassion. In his practical wisdom, he presents the call to look within as an invitation: “As we grow older, we find repeated affronts to our sense […]

Inner Life

“Symptoms are profound clues to the intention of our psyche. In the end we will only be transformed when we can recognize and accept the fact that there is a will within each of us, quite outside the range of conscious control, a will which […]


The master in the art of living makes little distinction between his work and his play, his labor and his leisure, his mind and his body, his information and his recreation, his love and his religion. He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues […]

Embrace Your Coping Style

Not everyone can put on a happy face.  Looking on the bright side isn’t possible for some people and is even counterproductive. Expecting others to deal in a way that doesn’t fit, just makes them feel like a failure on top of already feeling bad. […]

Shame in Couples Therapy

Shame plays a powerful role in distorting identity as it’s concerned with being defective, feeling overexposed or lacking worth in the eyes of others.  As we can imagine, shame also is a critical barrier to intimacy in couples. The aversive nature of shame leads some […]

Tantric Yoga

Tantric Yoga

Probably the most misunderstood or misinterpreted of all the yoga, the sixth branch of trantra is the pathway of ritual, which includes consecrated sexuality. The key word here is “consecrated” which means to make it sacred, to set it apart as something holy or hallowed. […]

Wired for Connection

We are wired for connection. It’s in our biology. The infant comes into the world with needs and getting the needs met is the source of survival.  As we grow older, our needs for connection naturally become more sophisticated but the need remains the same. It […]

Jnana Yoga

Jnana Yoga

If we consider bhakti to be the yoga of the heart, then jnana yoga is the yoga of the mind. Jnana yoga is the path of the sage or scholar. This path requires development of the intellect through the study of the texts of the […]