Present Moment

When attention is strong, we can simply do what we are doing, moment to moment. If we are peeling an orange, we may notice the stickiness of the juice, the smell of the orange oil, and a host of other sensations. If the mind wanders, the instruction is, “Bring your attention back here.” Sometimes we […]

The Middle Ground

Emotional management tends to fall into two categories, externalizing or internalizing. When we express our emotions without discretion, we hand them over to the outside world where we hope they’ll be noticed, honored, and transformed. While this expression of true feeling can be healthy at times, it isn’t always the best way to work with […]


“I suspect that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention.  And especially if it’s given from the heart. When people are talking, there’s no need to do anything but receive them. Just take […]

The Ratio

Researchers love their numbers and when it comes to positivity, there golden ratio is 3-to-1. This means that for every heart-wrenching negative emotional experience you endure, you aim to experience at least three heartfelt positive emotional experiences that uplift you. The 3-to-1 ratio is the tipping point positive psychology researches predicted whether people languish or […]