Year: 2013

Unhook and Let Go

It’s no secret. I hawk freedom for living. My “theory of change” revolves around the idea that we are stuck in habituated ways of being that are no longer serving our best selves. For most of its young life, psychology’s main job has been to […]



There’s a joke in yoga that asks, “If you had to hide something that was the most valuable thing you had, where would you hide it?” The answer is: “in the present moment.” Ouch. Very funny, yoga. We all know the best humor has more than […]

Present Moment

When attention is strong, we can simply do what we are doing, moment to moment. If we are peeling an orange, we may notice the stickiness of the juice, the smell of the orange oil, and a host of other sensations. If the mind wanders, […]

Finding What You Didn’t Lose

Finding What You Didn’t Lose When someone deeply listens to you it is like holding out a dented cup you’ve had since childhood and watching it fill up with cold, fresh water. When it balances on top of the brim, you are understood. When it […]

My Body, My Friend

Just read a short article over lunch. The writer is a recovered bulimic who suffered with negative body image since a child. She talks about making peace with her body and spending some good one-on-one time together, as she would in getting acquainted with someone. […]


This beautiful poem by Danna Faulds was read to me by a client in session. It’s a loving reminder of the universal suffering we all share. It’s enough to offer love, no matter how imperfectly received or given. It’s enough to try and fail at […]

The Middle Ground

Emotional management tends to fall into two categories, externalizing or internalizing. When we express our emotions without discretion, we hand them over to the outside world where we hope they’ll be noticed, honored, and transformed. While this expression of true feeling can be healthy at […]


“I suspect that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention.  And especially if it’s given from the heart. When people are talking, there’s […]

The Ratio

Researchers love their numbers and when it comes to positivity, there golden ratio is 3-to-1. This means that for every heart-wrenching negative emotional experience you endure, you aim to experience at least three heartfelt positive emotional experiences that uplift you. The 3-to-1 ratio is the […]

“I suffer with depression.”

This nineteen year old kid blew me way with his courage and honesty. So good. Depression