“Live! Live the wonderful life that is in you! Let nothing be lost upon you. Be always searching for new sensations. Be afraid of nothing.” ―Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray
James Hollis says the task of adult life is to give back projections. This is a bold and empowering statement. He asks that we dig deep to unearth our real self.
Much of who we are is a tapestry of other people. It happens serendipitously. As children, we are given a blank canvas to paint our life. Temperament and character provide the color and brush stroke, while experience creates the art.
By the time we reach maturity, the work is seemingly complete. Then one day we notice a crack. We hear someone else’s voice coming out of our mouths, another’s dream, hope, fear, or desire.
This isn’t necessarily a bad thing – merely something to be aware of. In being more mindful, we have more choice and with that choice comes the freedom to make our lives a living work of art.