Tea Ritual

This morning was daylight savings Sunday and I woke unusually early. I could hear the small pattering of rain leftover from the night. I headed for the kitchen and heated some water. Every morning, I spend a few minutes sitting quietly with a cup of tea. For the last ten years or so, I’ve spent […]

If You Own One Thing in the World…

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” — Elizabeth Appell Almost everyone lives out of the misguided belief that they aren’t enough. Caught in the comparative mind, we judge ourselves against unrealistic ideals. What most don’t realize is that, […]

Worry: Friend or Foe?

Worry is a superhero, capable of leaping out of the present in a single bound. Its hidden power is the ability to travel through time in a split second. But at the end of the day, turns out worry is just a pint of ice-cream in disguise – providing a quick fix to a long-term […]

Nerdo Science

In an earlier post I gave a simplified introduction to four key regions of the brain that influence how we feel. The most important take-away is the understanding of how the neural circuits work. There is a circuit for every thought, feeling, and action we have. By making small tweaks we can “swing the vote” […]

The “Feeling” Brain

Most people know by now that the human brain developed in three stages. The first to come along was the stem brain which we inherited from dinosaurs, next came the limbic followed by the prefrontal cortex, which – for better or worse – sets us apart from other animals. This post will focus on the […]

Magical Myth

Never before in human history has there been such a global expression of emptiness and longing, of alienation and heartfelt connection. It’s this crazy mixed bag of experience and it’s happening fast. We hunger for happiness and, like any other biological need, not getting it makes us vulnerable to the easy fix. This desire is […]

Finding What You Didn’t Lose

Finding What You Didn’t Lose When someone deeply listens to you it is like holding out a dented cup you’ve had since childhood and watching it fill up with cold, fresh water. When it balances on top of the brim, you are understood. When it overflows and touches your skin, you are loved. When someone […]

Where Is Our Anger?

The language around Donald Trump’s behavior is exhausting. He’s a sexual predator who represents a larger number of our population than we want to admit. Chances are we all know someone, or have been on the receiving end of unwanted, sexual contact and for some reason it’s being talked about like “locker room banter.” Humans are meaning […]

Mirror of Humanity

Our humanity is the most unpredictable and frightening aspect of our existence. Collectively and individually human beings are capable of a startling array of behaviors, from the most loving and altruistic to the most cruel and destructive. Although the behaviors of others scare us, the most unsettling awareness is that we carry within us the […]

The Importance of Practice

Mindfulness changes the way we respond to things by strengthening the prefrontal cortex. Different types of practices activate our thinking centers in different ways, similar to muscle use with exercise. No matter the course, all forms of mindfulness practice strengthen the attentional circuits and reduce fight-or-flight responses. Carving out a time to practice is key […]