Worry: Friend or Foe?

Worry is a superhero, capable of leaping out of the present in a single bound. Its hidden power is the ability to travel through time in a split second. But at the end of the day, turns out worry is just a pint of ice-cream in disguise – providing a quick fix to a long-term […]

Nerdo Science

In an earlier post I gave a simplified introduction to four key regions of the brain that influence how we feel. The most important take-away is the understanding of how the neural circuits work. There is a circuit for every thought, feeling, and action we have. By making small tweaks we can “swing the vote” […]

The “Feeling” Brain

Most people know by now that the human brain developed in three stages. The first to come along was the stem brain which we inherited from dinosaurs, next came the limbic followed by the prefrontal cortex, which – for better or worse – sets us apart from other animals. This post will focus on the […]

How to Exercise Your Mindfulness Muscle

Few of us have been taught how to sit with our thoughts and feelings. As a result we are vulnerable to getting hooked and triggered. Awareness, attention and curiosity allow us to take control of our thinking and respond by choice instead of reactive habit. Lack of awareness keeps us in a state of autopilot, […]

Thoughts, Beliefs and Multiple Me’s

Much of life is spent trying to manage our self-images. Closely related to our self-images are our identities – how we define ourselves according to the roles we play. Both our self-images and our identities become part of the stories we spin about ourselves. Our stories are almost always a skewed version of the truth […]

The Sacred Start

Our understanding of love has been hijacked and beguiled by its first distracting moving moments. We have allowed our love stories to end way too early. We seem to know far too much about how love starts, and recklessly little about how it might continue. p 15 Love means admiration for qualities in the lover that promise to […]

Collect Memories, Not Stuff

I used to pride myself in knowing the only shopping I enjoyed was for produce. For me, a day at the Farmer’s Market was and is nothing short of a spiritual experience, while going to the mall is like a visit to the Inferno. That pristine image was forever changed the day I signed up […]

The Power of Letting Go

“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” – Joan Didion When asked if people were doing the best they can, a mentor once said: “I don’t know. All I know is that my life is better when I assume that people are doing their best. It […]

Self-Stories

“Life does not consist mainly, or even largely, of facts or happenings. It consists mainly of the storm of thoughts that is forever flowing through one’s head.”  ~ Mark Twain The other day I had a face down in the arena moment. Someone didn’t “like” a post I shared on Facebook. I felt hurt and the […]