Why Connect?

“What is the value of social support if we are ultimately alone?” This good question came my way recently and gave me pause to think. There are many ways to go with it. One way I understand reaching out is for the journey itself. For years I found it difficult to accept that people come […]

Childhood Play

Understanding how we played as children, what we liked and didn’t like, is a key component toward bringing back play into our adult lives. Childhood play tells us about the things that came naturally to us. For example, as a child I loved to explore. I used to drop little objects in a shoe box […]

The Power of Play

What is play? A classic definition is to engage in recreation or amusement that relaxes or refreshes the body and mind. With one small caveat, it must come from the heart. We need play because life is serious. It helps create balance and is different than just having fun. In play, we lose ourselves. We […]

Self Talk

I’m going to take you on a brief journey into the heart of Being. As a therapist, one of my favorite roles is to remind people of their largeness – which I define as living a Self-led life. When describing the qualities of Self, it’s not unusual for clients to look at me quizzically. Recently someone […]

Fill ‘er Up

Brené Brown consistently delivers whole-hearted, thought-provoking material. The woman in on fire. Here she interviews Oprah Winfrey in classic researcher style, asking pointed questions on tender subjects. On the topic of shame, Oprah shared how she learned to overcome the diminishing question “Who do you think you are?” Instead of shrinking from self-judgment and aligning with the critic, […]

Let It Go!

It is the ability to find gratitude that helps us move through challenges time and time again. Gratitude helps us find our strength, open our hearts and experience the fullness of our lives. It liberates us from the prison of small mind/ego. The good news is you don’t have to lose everything you hold dear […]

The Power of Touch

  I don’t come from a family of huggers, even though I was born one. The funny thing is that I didn’t know I carried the recessive hugging gene until I moved up to the Bay Area for college. The drive from San Francisco to Orange County took about seven hours, so I drove home […]

Celebrating Therapeutic Gains

I sometimes wonder if the perception and purpose of therapy has been tainted by movies and media. There seems to be an understanding that “good therapy” occurs only when you cry your eyes out or unearth the deepest trenches of personal suffering. To be fair, the Kleenex is there for a reason. Exploring pain is […]