Shame

Embracing the Feminine

Embracing the Feminine

We western women live in a masculine world. The American ethos of “rugged individualism” favors force, action and dominance. As a result the inherent strengths of women have been marginalized as weak and insufficient to “get the job done.” Knowing our ability, we adopted the […]

All of You Is Welcome

All of You Is Welcome

Being satisfied with what we already have is a magical golden key to being alive in a full, unrestricted, and inspired way. – Pema Chödrön We cannot exile undesirable parts of ourselves without dulling the rest. That’s because our juiciness and aliveness is all mixed […]

Fill ‘er Up

Fill ‘er Up

Brené Brown consistently delivers whole-hearted, thought-provoking material. The woman in on fire. Here she interviews Oprah Winfrey in classic researcher style, asking pointed questions on tender subjects. On the topic of shame, Oprah shared how she learned to overcome the diminishing question “Who do you think you are?” […]

Teachable Moments

Teachable Moments

When it comes to behavioral learning, the heat of a moment is not a teachable one. Especially with kids. Your child’s already limited executive functioning isn’t on-line. He’ll be able to learn after everyone has calmed down and you’ll be able to teach a lot […]

Rewiring Joy

Rewiring Joy

Thanks to neuroscience, we now know the brain/nervous system is capable of change. That means with enough effort, skill and time a person can do a lot to overcome the effects of painful experiences. The catch is that the survival lessons of our ancestors required […]

Self-Acceptance

Self-Acceptance

I’d like to share a simple yet highly effective technique for building self-acceptance. Start a phrase using an example you feel sadness, pain, or regret about: “Even though (experience, behavior or feelings) … Then add the self-acceptance piece: “I (was/am) doing the best I (could/can).” […]

An Ugly Truth

My husband took a trip last week. Calling home he asked to switch over to the computer because we packed the wrong power chord for the phone. Between the two of us, I’m the more organized, neat and tidy which makes me the keeper of […]

The Blame Game

In the world of intimate relationships, it’s human nature to want to change your partner. The truth is, you can’t change your partner any more than they can change you. You can influence each other, but the more you believe your partner should be different, […]

Culture of Shame

My family recently had dinner at a casual place where you order and grab a seat. While waiting in line, our son started playing with the kid in front. They bonded immediately in a superhero battle and while finding a table, he insisted we sit […]

“I suffer with depression.”

This nineteen year old kid blew me way with his courage and honesty. So good. Depression