Worry: Friend or Foe?

Worry is a superhero, capable of leaping out of the present in a single bound. Its hidden power is the ability to travel through time in a split second. But at the end of the day, turns out worry is just a pint of ice-cream in disguise – providing a quick fix to a long-term […]

Nerdo Science

In an earlier post I gave a simplified introduction to four key regions of the brain that influence how we feel. The most important take-away is the understanding of how the neural circuits work. There is a circuit for every thought, feeling, and action we have. By making small tweaks we can “swing the vote” […]

The “Feeling” Brain

Most people know by now that the human brain developed in three stages. The first to come along was the stem brain which we inherited from dinosaurs, next came the limbic followed by the prefrontal cortex, which – for better or worse – sets us apart from other animals. This post will focus on the […]

How to Exercise Your Mindfulness Muscle

Few of us have been taught how to sit with our thoughts and feelings. As a result we are vulnerable to getting hooked and triggered. Awareness, attention and curiosity allow us to take control of our thinking and respond by choice instead of reactive habit. Lack of awareness keeps us in a state of autopilot, […]

Collect Memories, Not Stuff

I used to pride myself in knowing the only shopping I enjoyed was for produce. For me, a day at the Farmer’s Market was and is nothing short of a spiritual experience, while going to the mall is like a visit to the Inferno. That pristine image was forever changed the day I signed up […]

The Power of Letting Go

“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” – Joan Didion When asked if people were doing the best they can, a mentor once said: “I don’t know. All I know is that my life is better when I assume that people are doing their best. It […]

The Power of Play

What is play? A classic definition is to engage in recreation or amusement that relaxes or refreshes the body and mind. With one small caveat, it must come from the heart. We need play because life is serious. It helps create balance and is different than just having fun. In play, we lose ourselves. We […]

Self Talk

I’m going to take you on a brief journey into the heart of Being. As a therapist, one of my favorite roles is to remind people of their largeness – which I define as living a Self-led life. When describing the qualities of Self, it’s not unusual for clients to look at me quizzically. Recently someone […]

Fill ‘er Up

Brené Brown consistently delivers whole-hearted, thought-provoking material. The woman in on fire. Here she interviews Oprah Winfrey in classic researcher style, asking pointed questions on tender subjects. On the topic of shame, Oprah shared how she learned to overcome the diminishing question “Who do you think you are?” Instead of shrinking from self-judgment and aligning with the critic, […]

The Quiet Killer

Sugar is the devil in disguise. Think I’m kidding? Stop what you’re doing and “Google” the harmful effects of sugar. About 20,600,000 results will come up in 0.38 seconds. Click on any one of them and you’ll see a list a mood disorders, degenerative disease, chronic inflammation and metabolic syndrome. If you don’t suffer from any […]