How to Build an Unbreakable Human: An Open Letter to My Bully

Dear Bully, You tried to break me. Thankfully resilient people are hard to break. They get knocked down just like everyone else, but have a tendency to soldier on – more often than not – a little bit stronger than before. I’m not saying it’s been easy. Fear tactics work for a reason. It helps to have […]

How to Exercise Your Mindfulness Muscle

Few of us have been taught how to sit with our thoughts and feelings. As a result we are vulnerable to getting hooked and triggered. Awareness, attention and curiosity allow us to take control of our thinking and respond by choice instead of reactive habit. Lack of awareness keeps us in a state of autopilot, […]

Collect Memories, Not Stuff

I used to pride myself in knowing the only shopping I enjoyed was for produce. For me, a day at the Farmer’s Market was and is nothing short of a spiritual experience, while going to the mall is like a visit to the Inferno. That pristine image was forever changed the day I signed up […]

The Power of Letting Go

“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” – Joan Didion When asked if people were doing the best they can, a mentor once said: “I don’t know. All I know is that my life is better when I assume that people are doing their best. It […]

The Power of Play

What is play? A classic definition is to engage in recreation or amusement that relaxes or refreshes the body and mind. With one small caveat, it must come from the heart. We need play because life is serious. It helps create balance and is different than just having fun. In play, we lose ourselves. We […]

Self Talk

I’m going to take you on a brief journey into the heart of Being. As a therapist, one of my favorite roles is to remind people of their largeness – which I define as living a Self-led life. When describing the qualities of Self, it’s not unusual for clients to look at me quizzically. Recently someone […]

Fill ‘er Up

Brené Brown consistently delivers whole-hearted, thought-provoking material. The woman in on fire. Here she interviews Oprah Winfrey in classic researcher style, asking pointed questions on tender subjects. On the topic of shame, Oprah shared how she learned to overcome the diminishing question “Who do you think you are?” Instead of shrinking from self-judgment and aligning with the critic, […]

The Quiet Killer

Sugar is the devil in disguise. Think I’m kidding? Stop what you’re doing and “Google” the harmful effects of sugar. About 20,600,000 results will come up in 0.38 seconds. Click on any one of them and you’ll see a list a mood disorders, degenerative disease, chronic inflammation and metabolic syndrome. If you don’t suffer from any […]

Sweet Savant

I never thought I’d say this, but I’m glad I’m a (recovering) sugar junkie. I’m feeling lucky that the bane and pleasure of my existence is/was and may always be – sugar. Where it not, I would have never discovered what a crucial role it plays in well-being. Up until this moment, I viewed sugar […]

Choose Health

One of my favorite childhood cartoons was a propaganda piece that taught kids how to make healthy food choices. A squatty, smart aleck named Ol’ Timer proselytized “you are what you eat from head down to your feet!” The tune was catchy and I’d find myself singing it mindlessly while happily eating a bag of […]