Love

Love Notes

Love Notes

I’m enjoying Alain de Botton’s latest novel, The Course of Love. He tells the story of love, wanting to tell the whole story – instead of the happy ending, where most leave off. His narrative is intertwined with bits of philosophical wonderings and notes of genius. […]

Power of Play

Power of Play

What is play? A classic definition is to engage in recreation or amusement that relaxes or refreshes the body and mind. With one small caveat, it must come from the heart. We need play because life is serious. It helps create balance and is different […]

Ghost Busting

Ghost Busting

Leave it to the sensational Esther Perel to nail the climate of modern love. At a conference speaking to 2,500 millennials, she outlined methods of rejection that are currently in vogue. Surprisingly, her arching definition perfectly describes what also happens in long-term married couples. “These tactics […]

The Power of Touch

The Power of Touch

I don’t come from a family of huggers, even though I was naturally born one. The funny thing is that I didn’t know I carried the recessive hugging gene until I moved up to the Bay Area for college. The drive from San Francisco to […]

The Power of Love

The Power of Love

While falling in love is an experience we all cherish, it doesn’t do the heavy lifting in life. The maintenance of love requires many repeated gifts of tolerance, compassion and generosity. Giving daily in small ways makes us healthier and happier. It’s also associated with […]

Connect First

Connect First

As an older parent I’ve had the luxury of maturity, security and nanny TV to help me navigate through the murky waters of first-time parenthood. In the beginning, time-outs and counting were money in the bank and mama thought she had it made. It didn’t […]

The Gift of Gratitude

The Gift of Gratitude

“Silent gratitude isn’t very much to anyone.”  – Gertrude Stein There is now evidence that when we share our gratitude – whether in words, kindness, or gifts – we nurture our relationships. Expressing appreciation brings people closer together, strengthening the ties that bind. Of course, […]

Prevailing Winds

Prevailing Winds

“You are made in the image of what you desire.” – Thomas Merton A single gust of wind won’t alter the shape of a tree. Yet when you see a patch of the trees all leaning to the west, the lasting effects of the prevailing […]

Cultivate Gratitude

Cultivate Gratitude

We are here to love. Period. The more open we are to receiving the benefits of it, the more capable we are to face the challenges of life. Hard times are inevitable. They won’t disappear just because we raise our positivity ratio – though they […]

The L-Word

The L-Word

Most folks get the concept of feel-good vibes, but are hesitate to call that spark of connection love. People feel more at ease reserving this powerful word to describe more intimate or exclusive relationships. Thankfully, the scientific understanding of love offers a fresh lens. Research […]