Healing Relationships

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” – Anaïs Nin I’m in awe each time a client lets me into their private world – especially when they’ve been hurt by those closest to them. Imagine the courage it takes […]

Fill ‘er Up

Brené Brown consistently delivers whole-hearted, thought-provoking material. The woman in on fire. Here she interviews Oprah Winfrey in classic researcher style, asking pointed questions on tender subjects. On the topic of shame, Oprah shared how she learned to overcome the diminishing question “Who do you think you are?” Instead of shrinking from self-judgment and aligning with the critic, […]

Our Innate Wisdom

Each of us was born with the perfected wisdom of the awakened mind. We ate when hungry, slept when tired and laughed when playful. By the same miracle that we forget the memories of birth, do we gradually forget the truth of our being. In forgetting who we are, we must endure the struggle to […]


I’d like to share a simple yet highly effective technique for building self-acceptance. Start a phrase using an example you feel sadness, pain, or regret about: “Even though (experience, behavior or feelings) … Then add the self-acceptance piece: “I (was/am) doing the best I (could/can).” No matter where you are in life, no matter what […]

Raising Children, Raising Ourselves

No one makes it to adulthood unscathed. Virtually all of us were wounded as children. But if we don’t attend to those wounds, they will unknowingly prevent us from parenting and/or partnering from our best self. Children have a knack for showing us our wounded places. As do our partners. That’s what makes them our […]

Our Inherent Goodness

In a previous post (Cross-Cultural Spirituality), I wrote about a friend who sent me a copy of her rabbi’s Elul. It speaks eloquently to a personally belief of mine that carries over into my professional behavior. Namely, that we are born inherently good and that we heal by connecting with others.  Elul 10/September 5 “Sometimes, we stray […]

Loving Kindness

As odd as it may sound, we truly can’t love others unless we first love ourselves. It’s a bit like math. The depth to which we connect with others correlates to the degree to which we love our selves. And the greatest obstacle to self-love is a felt sense of unworthiness or inadequacy. It’s there […]