How to Build an Unbreakable Human: An Open Letter to My Bully

Dear Bully, You tried to break me. Thankfully resilient people are hard to break. They get knocked down just like everyone else, but have a tendency to soldier on – more often than not – a little bit stronger than before. I’m not saying it’s been easy. Fear tactics work for a reason. It helps to have […]

Mirror of Humanity

Our humanity is the most unpredictable and frightening aspect of our existence. Collectively and individually human beings are capable of a startling array of behaviors, from the most loving and altruistic to the most cruel and destructive. Although the behaviors of others scare us, the most unsettling awareness is that we carry within us the […]

The Importance of Practice

Mindfulness changes the way we respond to things by strengthening the prefrontal cortex. Different types of practices activate our thinking centers in different ways, similar to muscle use with exercise. No matter the course, all forms of mindfulness practice strengthen the attentional circuits and reduce fight-or-flight responses. Carving out a time to practice is key […]

How to Exercise Your Mindfulness Muscle

Few of us have been taught how to sit with our thoughts and feelings. As a result we are vulnerable to getting hooked and triggered. Awareness, attention and curiosity allow us to take control of our thinking and respond by choice instead of reactive habit. Lack of awareness keeps us in a state of autopilot, […]

Thoughts, Beliefs and Multiple Me’s

Much of life is spent trying to manage our self-images. Closely related to our self-images are our identities – how we define ourselves according to the roles we play. Both our self-images and our identities become part of the stories we spin about ourselves. Our stories are almost always a skewed version of the truth […]

The Power of Letting Go

“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” – Joan Didion When asked if people were doing the best they can, a mentor once said: “I don’t know. All I know is that my life is better when I assume that people are doing their best. It […]

Love and Loss

“Fasten your seatbelts, it’s going to be a bumpy night!”  ~ Margo Channing, All About Eve Loss is a part of life. In a broad sense, we experience it any time there is a change in our relationship to the world.This experience is often associated with pain. But if we can view suffering as a […]