I’d like to share a simple yet highly effective technique for building self-acceptance. Start a phrase using an example you feel sadness, pain, or regret about: “Even though (experience, behavior or feelings) … Then add the self-acceptance piece: “I (was/am) doing the best I (could/can).” […]

Dis-ease of Affluence

Dis-ease of Affluence

Our brains developed over the last few millennia to help us navigate in a natural environment. Cave dwellers at heart and farmers at best, we have yet to catch up to the advances of technology. Gadgets are great. The convenience of texting and tweeting have […]

Canvas of Life

Canvas of Life

“Live! Live the wonderful life that is in you! Let nothing be lost upon you. Be always searching for new sensations. Be afraid of nothing.” ―Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray James Hollis says the task of adult life is to give back projections. This is […]

Virtues of Solitude

I gratuitously extol the virtues of connection, all the while knowing everyone needs a little alone time. In quiet solitude we discover who we really are and what are lives are about. Be it sitting silently with yourself a few minutes a day or turning […]

The Age of Distraction

  Here is the link to an article I wrote on parenting in the age of distraction. Hint: it’s all about emotional regulation. http://www.portlandtherapycenter.com/blog/the-age-distraction

Slowing Down to Chase the Light

The sun went into hiding this week and I joined it, by burying myself in work. Life was moving fast from under the pile. So when the sun broke through, I grabbed my camera and gladly followed. I’m walking around, looking for light. The house […]

Our Inherent Goodness

In a previous post (Cross-Cultural Spirituality), I wrote about a friend who sent me a copy of her rabbi’s Elul. It speaks eloquently to a personally belief of mine that carries over into my professional behavior. Namely, that we are born inherently good and that we heal […]

Cross-Cultural Spirituality

My family was and is about as secular as they come. We celebrated the holidays, but make no mistake, Easter was about the bunny and Christmas the booty. Thankfully, I had an ace up my sleeve growing up. My best friend was Jewish. Over the […]


Intention is like water. It flows to the lowest point unless directed elsewhere yet it can be very powerful when narrowed in with sustained attention. Just as water yields to form, intention leads to practice and whatever we practice, we get good at. Some folks […]

Emotional Regulation

Most of us learned as children that our negative feelings were in some way unacceptable, or even dangerous. As a result, when our own child has a meltdown our inner child gets triggered. We feel a sense of panic and react with fight, flight or […]