Personal Growth

Prepare for the Ultimate Gaslighting*

Prepare for the Ultimate Gaslighting*

*Gaslighting, if you don’t know the word, is defined as manipulation into doubting your own sanity; as in, Carl made Mary think she was crazy, even though she clearly caught him cheating. He gaslit her. Pretty soon, as the country begins to figure out how […]

We’re All In This Together

We’re All In This Together

This Danish commercial captures the heart of yoga, which is wisdom to know that we are not separate. We connected.

Body Parts and Other Things

Body Parts and Other Things

Discontent with our changing bodies is a rich source of suffering. The feeling is intensified as we age due to marketing and the cultural obsession with youthfulness. This leads many people to fight aging by any means necessary, often going to extraordinary lengths to hide […]

Weed and Yoga, Maybe Not?

Weed and Yoga, Maybe Not?

Disclaimer: The following contains “woo-woo” language. Contrary to popular myth, weed is not the magical doorway to higher consciousness that many hope for. I understand it’s possible you didn’t want to hear that, especially if you live in my town of Portland, Oregon. Cannabis was […]

Therapist as Mountain Guide

Therapist as Mountain Guide

Mountain guides do not climb mountains for people, nor do they make people climb mountains. The motivation for the climb has to be within the climber. You WANT to climb this mountain! You are excited about it and have hired a guide because you know, […]

What to Expect In Therapy

What to Expect In Therapy

I’m reposting this terrific article by Jessica Semaan that was originally posted in The Medium: I have been going to psychotherapy consistently for over 2 years. My best friend is a therapist. I read a lot of therapy books. And increasingly I am realizing how […]

Authenticity

Authenticity

At its root, authenticity requires self-knowledge and self-awareness. Authentic people accept their strengths and weaknesses. They are accountable. They are connected to their values and desires and act deliberately in ways that are consistent with those qualities. Authenticity is about being genuine and real.  It allows […]

Embracing the Feminine

Embracing the Feminine

We western women live in a masculine world. The American ethos of “rugged individualism” favors force, action and dominance. As a result the inherent strengths of women have been marginalized as weak and insufficient to “get the job done.” Knowing our ability, we adopted the […]

Three Keys to Growth

Three Keys to Growth

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” — Elizabeth Appell Few of us are guided to fully own who we are. Almost everyone lives out of the misguided belief […]

Magical Myth

Magical Myth

Never before in human history has there been such a global expression of emptiness and longing, of alienation and heartfelt connection. It’s this crazy mixed bag of experience and it’s happening fast. We hunger for happiness and, like any other biological need, not getting it […]