Magical Myth

Never before in human history has there been such a global expression of emptiness and longing, of alienation and heartfelt connection. It’s this crazy mixed bag of experience and it’s happening fast. We hunger for happiness and, like any other biological need, not getting it makes us vulnerable to the easy fix. This desire is […]

Mirror of Humanity

Our humanity is the most unpredictable and frightening aspect of our existence. Collectively and individually human beings are capable of a startling array of behaviors, from the most loving and altruistic to the most cruel and destructive. Although the behaviors of others scare us, the most unsettling awareness is that we carry within us the […]

All of You Is Welcome

Being satisfied with what we already have is a magical golden key to being alive in a full, unrestricted, and inspired way. – Pema Chödrön We cannot exile undesirable parts of ourselves without dulling the rest. That’s because our juiciness and aliveness is all mixed up with our craziness and confusion. This is why it’s […]

Build a Sacred Circle

“We are the sum total of the five closest people around us.” I was young the first time I read that. It had quite an impact on me yet would take twenty years to put it into practice. That’s because it takes courage and conviction and often requires weathering heroic storms of loneliness. But it’s […]

The Power of Letting Go

“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” – Joan Didion When asked if people were doing the best they can, a mentor once said: “I don’t know. All I know is that my life is better when I assume that people are doing their best. It […]

Self-Stories

“Life does not consist mainly, or even largely, of facts or happenings. It consists mainly of the storm of thoughts that is forever flowing through one’s head.”  ~ Mark Twain The other day I had a face down in the arena moment. Someone didn’t “like” a post I shared on Facebook. I felt hurt and the […]

Self Talk

I’m going to take you on a brief journey into the heart of Being. As a therapist, one of my favorite roles is to remind people of their largeness – which I define as living a Self-led life. When describing the qualities of Self, it’s not unusual for clients to look at me quizzically. Recently someone […]

Fill ‘er Up

Brené Brown consistently delivers whole-hearted, thought-provoking material. The woman in on fire. Here she interviews Oprah Winfrey in classic researcher style, asking pointed questions on tender subjects. On the topic of shame, Oprah shared how she learned to overcome the diminishing question “Who do you think you are?” Instead of shrinking from self-judgment and aligning with the critic, […]

Anatomy of Trust

I geek out on the work of Brené Brown like no one’s business. How can I not when she repeatedly offers compassionate wisdom with so much grace and humor? Here she breaks down the “anatomy of trust” into a handy acronym: B.R.A.V.I.N.G. Which stands for Boundaries, Reliability, Accountability, Vault (confidentiality), Integrity, Non-judgment, and Generosity. There […]

Our Innate Wisdom

Each of us was born with the perfected wisdom of the awakened mind. We ate when hungry, slept when tired and laughed when playful. By the same miracle that we forget the memories of birth, do we gradually forget the truth of our being. In forgetting who we are, we must endure the struggle to […]