Selfhood

Authenticity

Authenticity

At its root, authenticity requires self-knowledge and self-awareness. Authentic people accept their strengths and weaknesses. They are accountable. They are connected to their values and desires and act deliberately in ways that are consistent with those qualities. Authenticity is about being genuine and real.  It allows […]

Embracing the Feminine

Embracing the Feminine

We western women live in a masculine world. The American ethos of “rugged individualism” favors force, action and dominance. As a result the inherent strengths of women have been marginalized as weak and insufficient to “get the job done.” Knowing our ability, we adopted the […]

Magical Myth

Magical Myth

Never before in human history has there been such a global expression of emptiness and longing, of alienation and heartfelt connection. It’s this crazy mixed bag of experience and it’s happening fast. We hunger for happiness and, like any other biological need, not getting it […]

Where Is Our Anger?

Where Is Our Anger?

The language around Donald Trump’s behavior is exhausting. He’s a sexual predator who represents a larger number of our population than we want to admit. Chances are we all know someone, or have been on the receiving end of unwanted, sexual contact and for some reason it’s […]

Mirror of Humanity

Mirror of Humanity

Our humanity is the most unpredictable and frightening aspect of our existence. Collectively and individually human beings are capable of a startling array of behaviors, from the most loving and altruistic to the most cruel and destructive. Although the behaviors of others scare us, the […]

All of You Is Welcome

All of You Is Welcome

Being satisfied with what we already have is a magical golden key to being alive in a full, unrestricted, and inspired way. – Pema Chödrön We cannot exile undesirable parts of ourselves without dulling the rest. That’s because our juiciness and aliveness is all mixed […]

Build a Sacred Circle

Build a Sacred Circle

“We are the sum total of the five closest people around us.” I was young the first time I read that. It had quite an impact on me yet would take twenty years to put it into practice. That’s because it takes courage and conviction […]

Self-Stories

Self-Stories

“Life does not consist mainly, or even largely, of facts or happenings. It consists mainly of the storm of thoughts that is forever flowing through one’s head.”  ~ Mark Twain The other day I had a face down in the arena moment. Someone didn’t “like” a […]

Self Talk

Self Talk

I’m going to take you on a brief journey into the heart of Being. As a therapist, one of my favorite roles is to remind people of their largeness – which I define as living a Self-led life. When describing the qualities of Self, it’s […]

Fill ‘er Up

Fill ‘er Up

Brené Brown consistently delivers whole-hearted, thought-provoking material. The woman in on fire. Here she interviews Oprah Winfrey in classic researcher style, asking pointed questions on tender subjects. On the topic of shame, Oprah shared how she learned to overcome the diminishing question “Who do you think you are?” […]