Midlife and Beyond
My favorite description of midlife passage comes from Brené Brown. She describes it as when the universe gently places her hands upon your shoulders, pulls you close, and whispers in your ear:
It’s time. All of this pretending and performing – these coping mechanisms that you’ve developed to protect yourself from feeling inadequate and getting hurt – has to go. Your armor is preventing you from growing into your gifts. I understand that you needed these protections when you were small. I understand that you believed your armor could help you secure all of the things you needed to feel worthy and lovable, but you’re still searching and you’re more lost than ever. Time is growing short. There are unexplored adventures ahead of you. You can’t live the rest of your life worried about what other people think. The time has come to let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace who you are.
The second half of life is the ultimate initiation. It presents us with the opportunity to develop increased depth, integrity and character. The choice is ours. If we chose to grow and achieve ever-deepening wisdom, we must be willing to do the person work.
“Midlife crisis” is an opportunity to step into your true self. It’s time for change and reclamation. When we think of crisis, we often phrase it in catastrophic language. Yet, it also means “a time when a difficult or important decision must be made.” And when “the turning point of important change takes place.”
Midlife is a time to reclaim. The angst that is often felt, is your true self letting you know there is time to live life with greater joy and purpose. But change is hard and the soul knows that it will take some doing to get your attention. So she sends doubt, regret, anxiety and fear to wake you up.
The work of transformation is scary, terrifying and filled with the unknown. And it’s full of potential, vitality, and meaning. The successful transition through midlife is one of the most profound you will make in your life. I look forward to helping you explore and create the life you were meant to live.