We are wired for connection. It’s in our biology. The infant comes into the world with needs and getting the needs met is the source of survival. As we grow older, our needs for connection naturally become more sophisticated but the need remains the same. It is critical that we connect – emotionally, physically, spiritually and intellectually [Read More...]
posted on 04-09-12 at 7:09 am in Shame 101
tags: Attachment, compassion, Relationships, shame 
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posted on 02-27-12 at 6:56 am in Relationships
We are born with a need for others. It’s hard-wired. As we grow, that need becomes more refined. We need to feel that we are significant to others, that we exist in their heart and mind. We need to know that others want to be in relationship with us. Mutuality of response is indispensible to feelign [Read More...]
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posted on 06-15-10 at 7:07 am in Attachment
As a child the feeling of safety counteracts fear. If there is no feeling of safety, anxiety, the mother of all emotional pain, takes hold. Anxiety is rooted in the feeling of being alone in the face of danger. Because the feeling is unbearable, defenses soon arise to reestablish safety where the attachment relationship was [Read More...]
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