Asking good questions - of yourself and your partner - helps you uncover causes beneath causes. In a strong disagreement, do you really believe your partner is entitled to their opinion? Under duress, do you have the courage and tenacity to seek your partner’s reality and the courage to express your reality when the stakes are high? [Read More...]

You can’t create a flourishing relationship by only fixing what’s wrong, but it’s a start.  The best place to begin is to focus on changing yourself rather than your partner. Couples therapy works best if you have more goals for yourself than for your partner. Problems occur when reality departs sharply from our expectations, hopes, desires and [Read More...]

Good communication is much more difficult than most people want to believe and is the number one presenting problem in couple’s counseling.The three most important qualities for effective communication are respect, openness and persistence. It requires both people to speak from the heart about what really matters to each. Effective communication means you need to pay [Read More...]