Not everyone can put on a happy face. Looking on the bright side isn’t possible for some people and is even counterproductive. Expecting others to deal in a way that doesn’t fit, just makes them feel like a failure on top of already feeling bad. The one size fits all approach to managing emotional life is misguided. There is good to be found in unlikely places. Defensive pessimism anxious people experience can often be harnessed to get things done. A naturally pessimistic architect, for example, who sets low expectations for a presentation may review all the potential bad outcomes as a way prepare carefully, thus increasing chances for success!
Embrace Your Coping Style
Cognitive psychologists have found that the process of identifying and disputing irrational thoughts is a very effective way to short-circuit the anxiety cycle so we can regain our equilibrium, think more clearly, and feel a lot better. So the next time you’re feeling anxious, walk […]
Here are some of the most common anxiety-fueled thought patterns, plus some specific ways you can recognize and dispute them. If some of these sound familiar to you, put them in your mental tool kit so you can take them out when you need them.