In Season 2, Episode 5 of Ted Lasso, there is this wonderful scene in which a complacent, soft-spoken Nathan is being schooled in assertiveness by two powerful women. The owner, Rebecca, is played by Hannah Waddingham. Juno Temple plays her five-foot-two powerhouse publicist, Keeley. Nathan,…
Connective Tissue is Holding Us Together Our muscles are encased in a web of tissue that weaves in and around our body. This webbing is called fascia. It’s composed of thin, stretchy watery layers. Like a silk body stocking, it holds us together. To maintain…
One of the goals of therapy is to reside in our best self. In IFS this is referred to as Self Energy. This is a state in which we know ourselves, our patterns, our blind-spots and our strengths.
We now know that the only way to change embedded, painful memories is to access the “emotional brain.” While talking continue to play a crucial role in therapy, it keeps us in our rational mind. To create lasting change at the deepest level, we must access the limbic system.
Arthur Boorman was a disabled veteran of the Gulf War for 15 years, and was told by his doctors that he would never be able to walk on his own, ever again. He turned to yoga. Even though doctors told him walking would never happen, Arthur was persistent. He fell many times, but kept going.
Do not waste any time thinking you are stuck – you can take control over your life and change it faster than you might think. The dedication and transformation of Arthur’s journey is inspiring. You are a healer. It is within you at all times. Never give up.
Watch his inspiring transformation in this video.
As our limited roles fall away, there is a shift from ambition toward connection. We may be as productive as ever, but the motivation is different. Liberated from the pressure to hustle for our worth, we can drop the masks of our persona which allows our spirit to shine.
If we’re experiencing a daily dose of allostatic overload, run-of-the-mill stress – like a small burn while cooking dinner – can become a stick of dynamite. This in turn, results in responses like flare-ups of chronic pain, autoimmune or digestive disorders.
In the absence of good or unchallenged information, we will always make up stories to help us know what to do next. The brain rewards you with feeling good regardless to the truth or accuracy of the story. When you own your story of struggle, you get to write the ending. But when you deny a story, it owns you.
While it’s hard to fathom pain, despair and trauma as blessings, there are gifts to be gleaned from having experienced them. For instance, some of the early lessons of the pandemic were an appreciation for a slower pace of life and spending more time in nature.
We cannot experience the full flavor of our embodied life without dipping into the depths of anger, sorrow, joy, fear, contentment, and all the other subtle and complex ranges of emotions that lie on the spectrum of life.