“Silent gratitude isn’t very much to anyone.” – Gertrude Stein
There is now evidence that when we share our gratitude – whether in words, kindness, or gifts – we nurture our relationships. Expressing appreciation brings people closer together, strengthening the ties that bind.
Of course, we didn’t science to tell us. This wisdom is in our hearts. What most of us could use some help with is the accurate delivery of the message.
While it’s fine to say “thanks” or “you’re great,” these words seldom relate the sentiment as powerfully as we’d like. A good way to verbally convey your gratitude is to include your (1) observation, (2) feeling, and (3) value.
“Honey, I saw you filled the tank. How thoughtful! I was feeling overwhelmed by my To Do list. It was a relief to have that one done. Thank you.”
We’re seldom told of how we have impacted others, unless it’s hurtful or damaging. Then we get an earful. Sharing pleasant feelings allows the other to know that s/he has made a positive imprint in your life.
It’s a tremendous gift. You don’t need a box or ribbon, nor paper or scissors. You just need a moment to reflect on how your life would be lacking without your partner, friend, child, etc. Wrap the feeling up with a concrete example and top it off with some meaning.