Shame

I sit with clients on a regular basis as they find the courage to heal old wounds around shame and my heart always goes out to them. But to see my boy crumble in shame broke my heart. He’s only four years-old.

Cognitive psychologists have found that the process of identifying and disputing irrational thoughts is a very effective way to short-circuit the anxiety cycle so we can regain our equilibrium, think more clearly, and feel a lot better. So the next time you’re feeling anxious, walk…

We are wired for connection. It’s in our biology. The infant comes into the world with needs and getting the needs met is the source of survival. As we grow older, our needs for connection naturally become more sophisticated but the need remains the same.

Feeling cared for, accepted and having a sense of belonging and affiliation with others is fundamental to our well-being. Unfortunately, not everyone was raised in such an environment.

Try this simple strategy and your relationship with yourself will change. When the thoughts in your head grow less judgmental and more accepting, you’ll find that the world opens up for you. Take this small step to reconnect to the amazing soul that you are.

Nothing about human life is simple.  Our character styles, or ways of being, are influenced by many factors that are embodied, being shaped by, and in turn shaping the body structure.

I cannot recommend this amazing lecture by Brené Brown enough. Weaving humor, insight and compassion she speaks bravely about the power of vulnerability.

Children, being wonderfully creative, are capable of conjuring unlimited ways to maintain the attachment bonds that fend off anxiety. As we grow older theses clever coping strategies become internalized. In other words, they become unconscious blueprints of being.