Relationships

Being satisfied with what we already have is a magical golden key to being alive in a full, unrestricted, and inspired way. – Pema Chödrön We cannot exile undesirable parts of ourselves without dulling the rest. That’s because our juiciness and aliveness is all mixed…

Stand strong. Surround yourself with people who accept you fiercely while compassionately challenging your edge. Likewise, be a person who honors fear while lovingly encouraging beyond it.

Few of us are guided to fully own who we are. Almost everyone lives out of the misguided belief that they aren’t enough.

I have fond childhood memories of going to the Angel Stadium with my dad. He loved baseball and his enthusiasm for anything was contagious. Swept in the memory of a simpler time, I checked the box with a “heck yeah” I’ll volunteer!

We all need to be seen, loved and cherished. A felt sense of belonging is our birthright. Yet some come into this world and are met by disconnect. Fair or not, it doesn’t matter. Our connections with others inform our needs as well as how we get those needs met.

Leave it to the sensational Esther Perel to nail the climate of modern love. At a conference speaking to 2,500 millennials, she outlined methods of rejection that are currently in vogue. Surprisingly, her arching definition perfectly describes what also happens in long-term married couples. “These tactics…

I’m in awe each time a client lets me into their private world – especially when they’ve been hurt by those closest to them. Imagine the courage it takes to walk into a stranger’s office and reveal yourself while every bone in your body is saying, “Don’t do it. You’ll just get hurt again.”

I don’t come from a family of huggers, even though I was naturally born one. The funny thing is that I didn’t know I carried the recessive hugging gene until I moved up to the Bay Area for college. The drive from San Francisco to…

The great humanist Erich Fromm said, “The task we must set for ourselves is not to feel secure, but to be able to tolerate insecurity.” One way to accomplish this important endeavor is to treat ourselves as we would a good friend. When our reserves…

While falling in love is an experience we all cherish, it doesn’t do the heavy lifting in life. The maintenance of love requires many repeated gifts of tolerance, compassion and generosity. Giving daily in small ways makes us healthier and happier. It’s also associated with…