“Life does not consist mainly, or even largely, of facts or happenings. It consists mainly of the storm of thoughts that is forever flowing through one’s head.” ~ Mark Twain
We all need to be seen, loved and cherished. A felt sense of belonging is our birthright. Yet some come into this world and are met by disconnect. Fair or not, it doesn’t matter. Our connections with others inform our needs as well as how we get those needs met.
Try to see your so-called limitations with clarity and kindness. You didn’t ask for this suffering. Yet, here it is. Welcome it as part of the practice, accept it, experience it fully and then release it.
So powerful is the practice of gratitude that others will be lifted by being in your presence, helping them become different and better as well. Gratitude is truly the gift that keeps on giving.
The experience of love can be as simple as a shared smile with a stranger. By tuning into and seeking out mini moments of positive connection, we nourish ourselves from the inside out. Love is not a feeling reserved for friends and family alone. It is a way of being.
Emotional regulation is a practice. You’re being asked to reflect and respond against something that feels natural to the parasympathetic nervous system. That’s why the bulk of the work is learning to titrate emotions. When all else fails and you’re feeling overwhelmed, ask yourself what matters most and try to choose love every time.
Being open to who we are, exactly as we are in this moment, requires a stance of gentleness toward ourselves. This is what it means to befriend the self. We treat ourselves with the same sweetness we would a friend.
I sit with clients on a regular basis as they find the courage to heal old wounds around shame and my heart always goes out to them. But to see my boy crumble in shame broke my heart. He’s only four years-old.
Life would be meaningless where it not for our connection to others. It is the measure by which we are truly blessed. Because the power of love is in the resonance, connection requires intention and one of the best ways to hone it is by celebrating others.
We are born with this inner well-spring of positivity. It’s our innate source of growth and resiliency. The best part is that this active ingredient is endlessly renewed with continued use. That means, the more you seek out positive experiences the deeper your reservoir becomes.