Selfhood

In Season 2, Episode 5 of Ted Lasso, there is this wonderful scene in which a complacent, soft-spoken Nathan is being schooled in assertiveness by two powerful women. The owner, Rebecca, is played by Hannah Waddingham. Juno Temple plays her five-foot-two powerhouse publicist, Keeley. Nathan,…

One of the goals of therapy is to reside in our best self. In IFS this is referred to as Self Energy. This is a state in which we know ourselves, our patterns, our blind-spots and our strengths.

In the absence of good or unchallenged information, we will always make up stories to help us know what to do next. The brain rewards you with feeling good regardless to the truth or accuracy of the story. When you own your story of struggle, you get to write the ending. But when you deny a story, it owns you.

The soul is quite clever in its endeavors. It has mad skills that lures us to paint, sing, dance, build sanctuaries, plant gardens, raise children, write poetry, climb mountains, and all the other things humans do to discover themselves in life.

Although bodily sensations of anxiety can sometimes seem overwhelming and heighten anxiety, body mindfulness is another key component in treating panic disorder. Practicing deep breathing and relaxation techniques at home regularly can help you utilize these tools more effectively when panic strikes in public.

This Danish commercial captures the heart of yoga, which is wisdom to know that we are not separate. We connected.

A long time ago a wise, old yogi named Patanjali wrote a text called the Yoga Sutras. The sutras outlined eight different ways to live in alignment with our highest nature. Like a gentle guiding hand, the Yoga Sutras warn you of the inevitable pitfalls on this journey called life. According to Yoga, we suffer because we are blind to our true Self.

Your mind is likely thinking, “Wait a minute. What’s the catch?” The only one is that you have to do it. Thinking about helping that elderly person cross the street doesn’t cut it. You have to do it.

This seemingly intangible quality of authenticity, then, has very tangible outcomes. Authentic people feel better, are more resilient, and less likely to turn to self-destructive habits for comfort. They tend to be purposeful in their choices and more likely to follow through on their goals.

Ladies, the time has come to reclaim our feminine power. We have proven our worth again and again by donning our proverbial boots. It’s time to pull out the stilettos – or whatever tickles your fancy, don’t get stuck on the metaphor – and embrace the unique qualities and strengths of women.