How to Exercise Your Mindfulness Muscle

Few of us have been taught how to sit with our thoughts and feelings. As a result we are vulnerable to getting hooked and triggered. Awareness, attention and curiosity allow us to take control of our thinking and respond by choice instead of reactive habit. Lack of awareness keeps us in a state of autopilot, […]

Thoughts, Beliefs and Multiple Me’s

Much of life is spent trying to manage our self-images. Closely related to our self-images are our identities – how we define ourselves according to the roles we play. Both our self-images and our identities become part of the stories we spin about ourselves. Our stories are almost always a skewed version of the truth […]

Living Small In A Big World

“Since my house burnt down, I now own a better view Of the rising moon.” – Basho I’ve been on a quest to make my world small. It all started when I went big. I had a tiny house before they were vogue because it was all I could afford. I lived within my means […]

What Tee-Ball Taught Me

I have fond childhood memories of going to the Angel Stadium with my dad. He loved baseball and his enthusiasm for anything was contagious. So naturally when spring season rolled around, I enthusiastically signed my son up for Tee-Ball. Swept up the memory of a simpler time, I happily checked the volunteer box. I was […]

The Sacred Start

Our understanding of love has been hijacked and beguiled by its first distracting moving moments. We have allowed our love stories to end way too early. We seem to know far too much about how love starts, and recklessly little about how it might continue. p 15 Love means admiration for qualities in the lover that promise to […]

Cliff Notes on Love

I’m enjoying Alain de Botton’s latest novel, The Course of Love. He tells the story of love, wanting to tell the whole story – instead of the happy ending, where most leave off. His narrative is intertwined with bits of philosophical wonderings and notes of genius. He pokes fun at Romantic notions with playful compassion, allowing […]

All of You Is Welcome

Being satisfied with what we already have is a magical golden key to being alive in a full, unrestricted, and inspired way. – Pema Chödrön We cannot exile undesirable parts of ourselves without dulling the rest. That’s because our juiciness and aliveness is all mixed up with our craziness and confusion. This is why it’s […]

Build a Sacred Circle

“We are the sum total of the five closest people around us.” I was young the first time I read that. It had quite an impact on me yet would take twenty years to put it into practice. That’s because it takes courage and conviction and often requires weathering heroic storms of loneliness. But it’s […]

Collect Memories, Not Stuff

I used to pride myself in knowing the only shopping I enjoyed was for produce. For me, a day at the Farmer’s Market was and is nothing short of a spiritual experience, while going to the mall is like a visit to the Inferno. That pristine image was forever changed the day I signed up […]