Cliff Notes on Love

I’m enjoying Alain de Botton’s latest novel, The Course of Love. He tells the story of love, wanting to tell the whole story – instead of the happy ending, where most leave off. His narrative is intertwined with bits of philosophical wonderings and notes of genius. He pokes fun at Romantic notions with playful compassion, allowing […]

All of You Is Welcome

Being satisfied with what we already have is a magical golden key to being alive in a full, unrestricted, and inspired way. – Pema Chödrön We cannot exile undesirable parts of ourselves without dulling the rest. That’s because our juiciness and aliveness is all mixed up with our craziness and confusion. This is why it’s […]

Build a Sacred Circle

“We are the sum total of the five closest people around us.” I was young the first time I read that. It had quite an impact on me yet would take twenty years to put it into practice. That’s because it takes courage and conviction and often requires weathering heroic storms of loneliness. But it’s […]

Collect Memories, Not Stuff

I used to pride myself in knowing the only shopping I enjoyed was for produce. For me, a day at the Farmer’s Market was and is nothing short of a spiritual experience, while going to the mall is like a visit to the Inferno. That pristine image was forever changed the day I signed up […]

The Power of Letting Go

“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” – Joan Didion When asked if people were doing the best they can, a mentor once said: “I don’t know. All I know is that my life is better when I assume that people are doing their best. It […]

Unplug to Connect

“How we spend our days is how we spend our lives.” – Annie Dillard The desire to be seen is nothing new. We come into this world with a need for belonging. What’s new is the means in which we are getting that need met. It’s documented that the average person checks their phone 150 […]

Self-Stories

“Life does not consist mainly, or even largely, of facts or happenings. It consists mainly of the storm of thoughts that is forever flowing through one’s head.”  ~ Mark Twain The other day I had a face down in the arena moment. Someone didn’t “like” a post I shared on Facebook. I felt hurt and the […]

Why Connect?

“What is the value of social support if we are ultimately alone?” This good question came my way recently and gave me pause to think. There are many ways to go with it. One way I understand reaching out is for the journey itself. For years I found it difficult to accept that people come […]

Childhood Play

Understanding how we played as children, what we liked and didn’t like, is a key component toward bringing back play into our adult lives. Childhood play tells us about the things that came naturally to us. For example, as a child I loved to explore. I used to drop little objects in a shoe box […]